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Summer 2017 Newsletter (Newsletter Archives)

Message From Eileen:

Vacation for your Vocation!

professional speakingAnne Lamott insists “No is a complete sentence.” I love that thought. As someone who too often nods her head with taking on more work and responsibility, the ability to say “NO” can be a life-saving move. (Check out this recent blog post for hard facts.)

So I am saying “no” for the next two weeks. My Bill has longed to explore places in the Western U.S. and Canada. We are hopping in the car and taking a bucket trip up to Glacier Park, Montana, the Canadian Rockies, and over into eastern Washington and Oregon.

As the spirit moves me, I will send back short posts and maybe some video so you can come with me. Resiliency lessons will abound I am sure: staying power, stamina, and soulfulness.

However, I’d much rather if YOU would tell me what you will do so you can vacation for your vocation. You will come back renewed if you do it right!

Happy reading!





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The Ocean – ALL You Need to Know!!

An Elementary School Teacher Asked Kids To Write About The Ocean. But Gets The Shock Of Her Life When She Reads This.

1. This is a picture of an octopus. It has eight testicles. (Kelly, age 6)

2. If you are surrounded by ocean, you are an island. If you don’t have ocean all round you, you are incontinent. (Alex, age 7)

3. Oysters’ balls are called pearls. (Jerry, age 6)

4. Sharks are ugly and mean, and have big teeth, just like Emily Richardson. She’s not my friend any more. (Kylie, age 6)

5. A dolphin breaths through an a**hole on the top of its head. (Billy, age 8)

You can read the rest of what children know about the ocean at Tickld.com.

Resiliency Is Option B

resiliency speakerResiliency is the new trending word. Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant have sparked many conversations and insights with the publication of their book Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy.

The tragic, sudden death of Sheryl’s husband became the threshing ground for facing heartbreak with incredible honesty and pain. Her friend, Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton and a best-selling author, held her hand and offered concrete steps based upon his research.

It’s a powerful, compelling book. And thankfully, it has brought the topic of resiliency into the forefront. However, lest we think that resiliency is a skill used only in deep personal loss, I contend that resiliency is a life skill and one, frankly, that needs to be taught in our schools.

John Doran is a Guidance Counsellor in the Patrician Secondary School and author of Ways to Wellbeing a programme promoting resilience and positive mental health for students nationwide and internationally. In a recent article, John states that schools might be preparing children for a world that no longer exists.

Life has become far more demanding, competitive, and filled with stress. A fear of failure and thus risk avoidance is finding its way into educational systems and is also a pattern for every generation.

Doran continually reinforces students to see setbacks as learning tools. In fact, Adam Grant’s research shows that successful products (like rocket launches) are possible only when failure is closely examined from the lens of “what did we learn” versus “who is to blame”.

He also offers a lovely phrase to help with what I think of as “reframing”. FAIL becomes First Attempt in Learning. And mistakes are called VILE “Very Interesting Learning Experience.” In my book, Your Resiliency GPS, I call these events AFGO-Another Frigging Growth Opportunity. It does make me laugh-a critical piece of our resiliency skill set.

Here Is A Break For Positive People!

Edward Hardy is 93, lives in a nursing home, and suffers from dementia and depression. Sam Kinsella, one of Mr. Hardy’s care givers and the narrator of this video, learns of Edward’s prior life as a jazz pianist.

After Sam arranges for a keyboard to be brought in, Ed’s outlook appears to transform. Later, the home holds a concert featuring Ed and his old jazz band reunited after 35 years.

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Resiliency: An Equal Opportunity Resource

Do any of these sound like you:

Your organization has been downsized, “right-sized,” capsized. Perhaps you’ve been merged, remerged, submerged. Every time you think you know the answers, they change the questions. Up is down and down is up.

Perhaps you have the opposite challenge: your organization is growing so fast that it’s hard to maintain the pace! Business change is a daily fact of life…

You can read the rest of this article on LinkedIn where it received over 800 views over just a few days!

Must Read Books

Capitalists Arise!: End Economic Inequality, Grow the Middle Class, Heal the Nation by Peter Georgescu

Warning: This is NOT “beach reading”. But it is essential reading for a resilient, sustainable economy.

Why Should I Care? Peter Georgescu arrived in this country as a penniless Romanian refugee and rose to become the CEO of Young & Rubicam – one of the largest ad agencies in the world. Now, he has a message for his fellow CEOs: we’re the ones who must take the lead in fixing the economy.

Marshaling deeply sobering statistics, Georgescu depicts the stark reality of America today: a nation with greater wealth inequality and lower social mobility than just about any other country in the developed world. But the problem isn’t that free-market capitalism no longer works, it’s that it’s been hijacked by shareholder primacy. This book shows how the short-term thinking spawned by shareholder primacy lies at the root of our current economic malaise and social breakdown. Georgescu also offers concrete actions that capitalists themselves can take to create a better future-pay a fair wage, build up the business instead of just the stock price, and more. The irony is that if businesses do this, shareholders will do even better. In the long run, businesses can thrive only when society is healthy and strong.

SO-here IS your beach reading:

A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman

I just finished this book and found myself captured by the image of this grouchy old man and how-despite his seemingly inbred need to be mean-he still finds himself in the role of “helper”. It is a comical and heartwarming tale of unkempt cats, unexpected friendship, and the ancient art of backing up a U-Haul. All of which will change one cranky old man and a local residents’ association to their very foundations. Yes, it is available on DVD at Netflix but there is something about designing the characters in your head that might also open the doors of your heart.

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