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Winter 2017 Newsletter (Newsletter Archives)
Message From Eileen:
Resilient Resolutions Spark Revolutions
I admit it. The subject line for this winter report might sound ominous. However, the incredible amount of unknowns that we face in this year can lead to a sense of apprehension, fear, and frustration. These are all emotions that can hamper our resilient spirits from tapping into hope and possibility. Revolutions also signal a dramatic shift in behavior prompted when the status quo no longer serves. And that can be a good thing.
Resiliency requires adaptability—a way of responding that defies “the way we do things around here”. If the U.S. election showed us anything, it is that we are horribly divided and that our way of interacting with each other has become divisive versus collaborative. Despite your political leanings, our organizations and our communities can’t survive if broken into tribal units. What is needed is a revolution of the heart.
1. Seek first to understand rather than be understood. Made famous by St. Francis of Assisi, this statement is the groundwork for everything from marriage counseling to team effectiveness. In my work in resiliency, I think of this as seeking viewing points versus my singular viewpoint. Start small—even if it is with your teenager.
2. Practice random acts of kindness. Whether picking up trash on the sidewalk, buying a hot meal for a hungry person, expressing gratitude to people who rarely receive any kind of acknowledgment, or checking on a lonely elderly person, you name it—the acts are endless. Here’s the trick. Write it down at the end of the day in a journal but tell no one what you did. It’s amazing how much energy and satisfaction you will feel realizing that we all have power to become a “we” rather than a “they”.
3. Restrict social media and instead, spend time—face-to-face-time –with people who you can learn from, play with, and/or laugh with. How sad that there is a poor posture that is now aptly named the I-phone Slouch: heads bent, shoulders stooped, and eyes looking downward. How can we create cohesiveness if we don’t even see the world around us?
4. Celebrate what’s right with the world. USA TODAY began in January 2017 to run a weekly profile of Americans who are actively engaged in finding what unites us versus what divides is. If you don’t subscribe as we do, it’s worth buying the Monday edition just to read the profiles. I’ll be highlighting these Americans in my blog posts.
5. Say thank you. For decades, researchers have validated that using a gratitude journal daily creates a positive outlook. Take it further and tell others what you observe about them and say “thank you”. You will be thrilled at the response you get… and maybe even treated in return. I sent a thank you note to the general manager of our local Ritz Carlton for their “celebrate diversity“ gingerbread display and ended up with a lovely note and a discount card. I said thank you to the Tahitian woman who danced with my husband and ended up gifted with her floral wreath on my head. What lovely surprises.
Here’s to a resilient, revolutionary New Year! I’d love to know what you discover.
What are your September seductions?
For Fun…. Gifts From My Parents!
My Parents taught me LOGIC.
“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”
My Parents taught me FORESIGHT.
“Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”
My Parents taught me IRONY.
“Keep crying, and I’ll give you something to cry about.”
My Parents taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
“Shut your mouth and eat your supper.”
My Parents taught me about CONTORTION-ISM.
“Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!”
My Parents taught me about STAMINA.
“You’ll sit there until all that spinach is gone.”
My Parents taught me about WEATHER.
“This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.”
Thanks Mom & Dad!
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Talk About Collaboration!
Watch this YouTube video that matches Uptown Funk with OLD movies. Brilliant!
I don’t ever recall seeing such a fun, humanizing tribute to an out-going president. Informal photos set to Jon Tarifa – Don’t Go: A Tribute to Barack Obama. No matter what you checked on your ballot, all outgoing presidents deserve a retrospective just as all incoming presidents deserve an opportunity!
Watch this video “Karim Sulayman – I trust you” to see the way a young man modeled the behavior we all need to emulate during difficult times. Reach out and give someone a hug!
Army Officials Advance Strategic Shift for Resiliency Campaign
The Ready and Resilient campaign, known as R2, was created and deployed by the U.S. Army in 2012. The R2 campaign provides holistic and comprehensive capabilities to Army leaders to empower them to achieve and sustain personal readiness and optimize performance. I have discussed this program in the past and in an article by Sharyn Saunders, director of the Army Resiliency Directorate, discusses a pivot in the strategy to leverage the strengths of soldier camaraderie in the field. You can read the article here!
Must Read Books
MICRO-RESILIENCE: Minor Shifts for Major Boosts in Focus, Drive, and Energy by Bonnie St. John and Allen P. Haines
The life of Bonnie St. John is one on-going saga of resiliency: paralympic skier, Oxford Rhodes scholar, White House-appointed economic consultant. And more. Yet for all her giant leaps, she and husband, Allen, have managed to break down resiliency into small, do-able steps that have application for everyone. Mark your calendar – The book comes out in February. It’s a perfect companion to my book, Your Resiliency GPS.
Collaboration Begins With You by Ken Blanchard, Jane Ripley, Eunice Parisi Carew
Using the format of a business parable; you’ll discover a simple, memorable and actionable model for breaking down barriers and getting things done. The book is so powerful, I’ve suggested to the authors that they send it to all the leaders in Congress!. But then again-why wait? We all need this advice.
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